Dear Suri, I love my job. I feel like what I’m doing is important and useful. The people are nice and respectful. I get a good compensation package, complete with paid time off, discounts and health benefits. So I know with all this I shouldn’t let things get to me, but they still do. Let me explain:
I work with a team of eight people. Our skills “cross” to an extent, but for the most part we are considered “experts” in our respective fields of focus. I’m not sure if that makes any sense?
In any event, because we are all considered ‘equals,’ we always have to run projects and ideas by the entire group before anything can become part of the business plan. This method has worked fine for a while, but today I had to ‘take a moment’ in my car so I wouldn’t say something I would regret.
Part of my job (I won’t bore you with all the details!) is to draft proposals and considerations for customer review. This one report took a long time to finish, Suri, and then my co-workers just went and shat all over it! I mean real petty ‘suggestions,’ if you can even call them that. People saying I need to put in more detail here, or reference a prior case there. I think they were just making stuff up for spite. And to top it all off, they hit ‘reply all,’ so now everyone (including my boss!) saw the suggestions, and if I don’t put them in the final proposal I’ll bet there will be hell to pay!
I don’t think I want to quit, but I’m just tired of it. I’ve had it up to here with their stupid ‘recommendations.’ I bust my hump every day, and the only thanks I get is a big ‘screw you.’ It makes me mad, and makes me wonder if it’s all worth it. — Stressed in Saskatchewan
Workplace dynamics, to be sure, can try even the most patient among us. From what you’ve described, however, it appears the team review is less about ‘checking up’ on co-workers, and more about ensuring a consistent and quality message is being delivered to the company’s clients.
While your feelings are certainly valid — and there is something to be said for the amount of time and effort you’ve mentioned went into this report — it may be helpful to focus less on the people making the recommendations, and more on the suggestions themselves.
Personal attacks should not be tolerated, and busy-work tasks are counter-productive for everyone. However, if the points raised will ultimately benefit the company’s relationship with clients (by extension benefiting every employee) you may wish to re-focus your efforts toward producing — with your co-workers’ assistance — the most complete and effective presentation materials possible. Best of luck to you! ~Suri
by Suri Syrtawnya | Advice | Residential Life Magazine