I’m not trying to be blatantly offensive here, but I’m also not going to mince words when I say that most therapy is total B.S. Outside of traumatic events (and even then, only in the first few years following the event), therapy is just a crutch, an excuse, a scapegoat to avoid accepting responsibility and/or the situation for what it is, and then taking the necessary steps to move forward with your life.
Who the hell do I think I am?, you might ask. Well, both my father and brother were gunned down in separate acts of random (and senseless!) violence. I never even got to say goodbye.
I did my time in therapy, found an element of healing, and have moved on with my life as best I can. You’d better believe there are still days I break down, but I decided long ago that I wouldn’t let myself become a victim, and that I couldn’t become a basket-case over something I can’t fix.
Beating a Dead Horse
At the core of most therapy is this erroneous ideal that the individual is perfect — that everyone else needs to change. Ridiculous! If people don’t want to be around you because of a personality flaw, fix it. If you smell like a sow, take more showers. If you’re generally being obnoxious, learn how to change. Others should not have to either accept your stupidity or make drastic changes to their own lives, simply because you’re too much of a selfish little brat to open your eyes to the truth.
I realize not all situations fall into the personal faults department. For these scenarios, it’s important that the individual seeks out and receives the help and resources they need, and then taps into those resources to bring about at least some semblance of normalcy and a happy life. There is simply no reason to go through life in an emotional haze — crippled by past instances over which you have no control.
Behind Closed Doors
Therapy sessions typically occur in the therapist’s office, or in an otherwise controlled environment. This means the individual is removed from the elements in which they typically act out or experience emotional stress.
Take, for instance, this example of a particularly difficult fellow I work with. He’s constantly talking, yelling, laughing, eating loudly at his desk, and wandering the office — purposely seeking out any opportunity to annoy and enrage co-workers. He also sees a therapist twice a week.
I’m sure he’s more relaxed at the therapist’s office. From lighting, to furniture, to scent and smell, those spaces are purposely designed to have a calming effect. So how is that quack supposed to get to the bottom of this guy’s problem, if she never — in the first place — gets the chance to see the problem in action?!
Cut the Cord
I’m not fully against therapy. As described, I’m an “alumni” myself. I do think that long-term therapy — even in the wake of traumatic events — can actually be detrimental to the individual. It can create a dependence, and inhibit the individual from ever actually moving on with their lives.
by Peter P. Gaseoustania
Residential Life Magazine