Kids and Teens, Life and Death

Think Before You Surprise

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They say everyone loves a good surprise. Well, not really.

I’m not a huge fan of surprises. Some are okay. For example, a surprise birthday party? I’d already be in “celebration mode” and maybe even expecting a shindig. But many surprises aren’t well thought out and end up creating embarrassing, uncomfortable, and emotionally-distressing situations.

On the Spot

Those with social anxiety, for instance, would not appreciate someone dropping by unannounced. Public marriage proposals get tricky. Even if you’re sure of a ‘yes,’ when emotions are thrown into the mix, you might the one who’s surprised by the reaction.

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Protect Li’l Feelings

Especially with kids, surprises should be approached with caution. For example, springing vacation plans on a child could create a stressful situation.

Then there are the public surprises that have the potential to cause lasting damage. You often see news/feature reports of a parent who’s been deployed overseas visiting their child in school. When kids get emotional in front of their peers, they often harbor feelings of a embarrassment, humiliation, and remorse.

There’s nothing wrong with a well-thought-out surprise, but thinking is the key aspect.

by Alys Buenaventura
Residential Life Magazine

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