They say everyone loves a good surprise. Well, not really.
I’m not a huge fan of surprises. Some are okay. For example, a surprise birthday party? I’d already be in “celebration mode” and maybe even expecting a shindig. But many surprises aren’t well thought out and end up creating embarrassing, uncomfortable, and emotionally-distressing situations.
On the Spot
Those with social anxiety, for instance, would not appreciate someone dropping by unannounced. Public marriage proposals get tricky. Even if you’re sure of a ‘yes,’ when emotions are thrown into the mix, you might the one who’s surprised by the reaction.
Protect Li’l Feelings
Especially with kids, surprises should be approached with caution. For example, springing vacation plans on a child could create a stressful situation.
Then there are the public surprises that have the potential to cause lasting damage. You often see news/feature reports of a parent who’s been deployed overseas visiting their child in school. When kids get emotional in front of their peers, they often harbor feelings of a embarrassment, humiliation, and remorse.
There’s nothing wrong with a well-thought-out surprise, but thinking is the key aspect.
by Alys Buenaventura
Residential Life Magazine