Work and Occupation

Workplace Woes

Dear Suri, I love my job. I feel like what I’m doing is important and useful. The people are nice and respectful. I get a good compensation package, complete with paid time off, discounts and health benefits. So I know with all this I shouldn’t let things get to me, but they still do. Let me explain:

I work with a team of eight people. Our skills “cross” to an extent, but for the most part we are considered “experts” in our respective fields of focus. I’m not sure if that makes any sense?

Just another day at the office!
Just another day at the office!

In any event, because we are all considered ‘equals,’ we always have to run projects and ideas by the entire group before anything can become part of the business plan. This method has worked fine for a while, but today I had to ‘take a moment’ in my car so I wouldn’t say something I would regret.

Part of my job (I won’t bore you with all the details!) is to draft proposals and considerations for customer review. This one report took a long time to finish, Suri, and then my co-workers just went and shat all over it! I mean real petty ‘suggestions,’ if you can even call them that. People saying I need to put in more detail here, or reference a prior case there. I think they were just making stuff up for spite. And to top it all off, they hit ‘reply all,’ so now everyone (including my boss!) saw the suggestions, and if I don’t put them in the final proposal I’ll bet there will be hell to pay!

I don’t think I want to quit, but I’m just tired of it. I’ve had it up to here with their stupid ‘recommendations.’ I bust my hump every day, and the only thanks I get is a big ‘screw you.’ It makes me mad, and makes me wonder if it’s all worth it. — Stressed in Saskatchewan
Dear Stressed,

Workplace dynamics, to be sure, can try even the most patient among us. From what you’ve described, however, it appears the team review is less about ‘checking up’ on co-workers, and more about ensuring a consistent and quality message is being delivered to the company’s clients.

While your feelings are certainly valid — and there is something to be said for the amount of time and effort you’ve mentioned went into this report — it may be helpful to focus less on the people making the recommendations, and more on the suggestions themselves.

Personal attacks should not be tolerated, and busy-work tasks are counter-productive for everyone. However, if the points raised will ultimately benefit the company’s relationship with clients (by extension benefiting every employee) you may wish to re-focus your efforts toward producing — with your co-workers’ assistance — the most complete and effective presentation materials possible. Best of luck to you! ~Suri

Suri Says™

by Suri Syrtawnya | AdviceResidential Life Magazine 


Un-Friending Big Brother

A friend recently posted “unsolicited advice” (her words, not mine) on her Facebook account, warning young people seeking employment to know and monitor the information about them on social networking sites.  I wondered why they don’t just make their profiles private?

Employers searching for online information about job candidates is nothing new, it’s just become more prevalent (and easier!) in this age of social media. People still, however, have more control than they think when it comes to what is seen by whom.

Though nearly hidden, Facebook allows users to remain almost completely anonymous. This would, of course, defeat the purpose of social networking, but may be a tool to use temporarily, particularly when job seeking.

A friend set up his account in such a way that only family members (and, I suppose, close friends) are able to see what he’s up to. This may seem like an extreme measure to take, but it serves his needs quite well. He wanted to be part of the ‘scene,’ but also wanted to protect his privacy.

Social media has, though, become an integral part of our lives. For those who don’t want to completely erase their ‘footprint,’ I suggest creating a ‘professional’ online presence.

I have multiple accounts on various social networking sites, each with its own privacy settings. Because I use LinkedIn for freelance opportunities and professional networking, I’ve set up the account to allow virtually anyone to contact me, and see my information.

On the other hand, I have two accounts each for Facebook and Twitter: one for personal posts, and another that takes on more of a professional tone.

I use my initials (you could also use a nickname) for my personal sites, and my full, legal name for the ‘work accounts.’ I don’t cross-link the accounts (no ‘friending’ or ‘liking’).

The result is that — for the most part — I am able to maintain two separate online identities, while controlling what information is seen by what people. Because I’m not really outright hiding anything from anyone, I’m sure the potential exists for an employer to realize my ‘ruse,’ but online subterfuge was never really part of the plan, in the first place.

Another aspect of my ‘unsolicited advice’ for young people would be to create a website dedicated to their professional endeavors. ‘’ or ‘’ — something along those lines.

The site will become a ‘living resume’ and online portfolio that you can include in your job seeking correspondence. Provided you make a commitment to frequently update content, it will also have the added benefit of displaying first (or of the first) in search results.

Maintaining an online presence doesn’t have to be a compromise of security or privacy. You can protect your online identity. If employers want to try and find something online that might disqualify you from a position, show them you can ‘play the game’ better than them.

by Enid Ahylhienatta | Technology Consultant | Residential Life Magazine