Shared Office Space Creates Tension

Dear Suri, I work in a “shared office environment,” which only means that everyone shares an office with at least two other people. It is mostly a space issue, but my supervisor also says it was done to boost teamwork. I guess people were relying on e-mail and chat and not actually talking to each other for weeks on end.

I actually don’t mind this setup, and the people I share with are usually pretty good about not listening to loud music, keeping food and perfume smells to a minimum, etc. But now this one lady has started to mess the whole thing up.

She just got a new personal computer, and now insists that everyone lock the door when they leave the office. It is just stupid. I’ve already been locked out three times, and it is just a waste of time and productivity.

Business People Working In Office
We’re all in this together

Labor Intensive

I’m overweight, so I usually empty my pockets when I get to work. The way dress pants are made, they don’t leave a lot of ‘extra room,’ if you know what I mean. It just gets too tight and uncomfortable when I sit down with stuff in my pockets. I’ve started to put my wallet and keys in a drawer and leave them in there until the end of the day. So when this lady pulls this stuff, it means I get locked out. I am tired of it!

Twice Shy

I complained to a co-worker, and he said that she (my office mate) had some stuff stolen a few years back when she had her own office. They took her computer, purse and some other stuff. Some guy posed as a janitor and just swiped stuff from everyone. I guess he made off with a lot, and then was never seen again. But that was years ago, and also when her office was on the first floor. Now we’re on the second floor. It would take balls to come up here and pull that stuff!

I think this lady is being disrespectful. Constantly locking the door is annoying, especially since she has a drawer that locks! Just keep your stuff in there. Don’t force the rest of us to play this game every day! — Locked Out in Loch Haven, Pennsylvania

Dear Locked Out, Rebuilding trust can be a long and difficult process. More than the mere loss of material possessions, theft is a violation of privacy and security. The emotional toll can last for years — even a lifetime.

Remaining sympathetic to your co-worker’s concerns, could you not draft a personal reminder to bring your keys when you leave the office? Good luck. ~Suri

Suri Says™
by Suri Syrtauwnya
Advice Editor
Residential Life Magazine


Let it All Hang Out

Why do men ‘suck it in’ when an attractive woman passes by? It doesn’t change anything! The guys who do this are usually so overweight that even with the ‘suck in,’ you can still tell they’re heavy. I’m not trying to be rude here, just stating the facts, ma’am! 😉

man with fat belly
Let the good times “roll!”

It’s true, a lot of women are more apt to check out (and maybe talk to) a guy without a beer belly, but it’s not always the case. Personality is really the key. I know some ultra-fit guys who can’t carry a conversation in a paper bag (whatever that means), and also some chunky dudes who are the nicest, sweetest guys ever. For me, at least, physical appearance is secondary.

Now, I’m not going to say I never take a guy’s body into consideration. At least some physical aspect is always the first thing anyone notices. You are being dishonest with yourself if you think differently. You can’t “see” someone’s personality, or soul, or whatever “at first sight,” so it comes down to the physical. But I’ve already written about all that. 🙂

There’s no need to belabor the point here (always loved that phrase), but suffice it to say (another fun one), guys, that the whole ‘suck it in’ thing is pointless, and most women know you are doing it, anyway. So… you might want to stop doing that.

by Angelina Estevante | Residential Life Magazine 

Get Real

Fitness is not a New Year’s resolution.

How many years have we “resolved” to lose weight, only to gain it all back a few months later? How much money have we wasted on those gym memberships that are never used? It’s time to begin our commitment to life-long fitness. More than just losing a few pounds or fitting into a summer swimsuit, it’s time to focus on long-term goals that will keep us healthy and happy for years to come.

Of course, the “magic formula” is still diet and exercise. We need to eat fewer calories than we are able to expend, and make a conscious effort to get in at least some exercise each day. It’s also a good idea to keep a food journal.

I certainly don’t have all the answers, and I’m not even trying to pretend I’m perfect. I still love a good “cheat meal.” Through the years I’ve lost (and gained back!) my fair share of the pounds. But when I let myself get 85 pounds overweight, I knew it was time to act. So, along with healthy eating and regular exercise, I started to log a food journal.

A month into my journal, I had to face a harsh truth. I had been “rewarding” myself with pizza, BBQ ribs, Chinese food, and candy every other night. But because it wasn’t every night, I didn’t even realize it! Time goes by fast, and it’s easy to fool ourselves into thinking we’re just having a “little treat.” But those treats can quickly add up!

I don’t like to preach, so I’ll bring this entry to a close. My only hope is that come July, we’re all still “chugging along,” losing weight and feeling great, and not full of regret at our good intentions from six months earlier.

Get Up. Get Moving. Get Fit!

by Raul Lisneski | Health & Fitness Editor | Residential Life Magazine